Love marriage vs Arrange marriage ….

A ppt presentation : )

How to be happy

1. Know that sometimes we don’t get along with people and that’s fine. Just learn how to minimise it.
2. 
   Always compliment and be kind to others. The same goes for everyone, just put yourself in their shoes and soon you will be chatting away in no time.
3. 
   Notice that if you have a feeling that a fight is rising up, try and be reasonable. Compromise or just have a few minutes to think by yourself. That way you can avoid a fight.
4. 
   Remember, what goes around comes around. If you’re nice to people they will be nice back and probably be more helpful if you’re asking for a favour.
5. 
   Think. If you are ever in a sticky situation, all you need to do is think.

Simple steps to start better day …

Steps : 

1. 
   Don’t hit the snooze button. Once your alarm goes off, your sleeping pattern has been disrupted, and when you go back to sleep and then ten minutes later wake up again, you just make yourself feel more tired for the rest of the day. Your body makes patterns in everything, and with sleep, once you wake up in the morning, your pattern has been set.
2. 
   Take a shower right after you wake up. If you take a shower right after you wake up, your body gets out of sleep mode and starts the daytime mode. You’re more awake, more alert, and definitely more fit to start your day. It’s also a good idea to clean your body first thing in the morning, so that by the time you start to get dirty or sweaty, or your hair gets oily, you will be up again, and taking another shower.
3. 
   Consider exercising in the morning. Many people enjoy waking up in the morning and getting their daily exercise gone and over with. This also sends out endorphins into your body, so positive energy is flowing through you right from the start. In order to be healthy, one must exercise. But, if you really just aren’t a morning person, or don’t like the idea of exercising in the morning, at least get in a little yoga or stretching. This will gear the body up for any activities you might need to do later in the day. Remember to shower after you exercise, though, to prevent smelling and sweatiness at school or work.
4. 
   Choose an outfit that reflects well on you as a person and doesn’t disrespect your body. Although it’s not what makes us who we are, it’s important to take into consideration how other people view us. When we dress as if we don’t care about our bodies and don’t respect our boundaries as people, we’re telling the world, ‘Hey, I don’t care about myself. I don’t respect my body,” and that’s no way to make a good impression.
5. 
   Eat a good breakfast. Breakfast is what fuels our bodies for our entire day and it’s the first thing we put in our bodies during the day. It’s like a first impression. Breakfast, if it’s unhealthy, is a bad impression on you. It affects how your body will work for the day, just as a first impression affects the way someone will treat you until they know you better. Try to eat some whole grains and also try to get in some calcium and protein for breakfast. A healthy person is someone who feeds their body things that their body needs. They don’t feed their body junk food and ice cream, because they know that in order to live life to the fullest, they need a body that works, and works well.
6. 
   Try not to rush. Set your alarm so that you can take your time showering, dressing, doing your hair, eating or whatever else you may do. Take some time during these events to think positively about the day ahead of you. Remember, it works if you work. If you think it will be a horrible day, then chances of it being a bad day are higher. Keep your confidence up, and people will respect you, and you will have a chance to respect yourself.

The 24 habits u should follow …

The 24 habits by some great author : )

The Morning

1. Wake Early: I am a big fan of waking at 5 am and spending time working on myself before going to work.

2. Exercise: when I had the goal of exercising 4 times a week I found it was very easy to tell myself I will exercise tomorrow instead. Setting the expectation of daily exercise removed this as a potential excuse and I have since reaped the benefits of this daily habit.

3. Review or (even better) Rewrite Your Goals: each day I try to get closer to achieving my short, medium and long term goals. Starting the day by reviewing or rewriting my goals means that I have better awareness of them throughout the day. As Robin Sharma says:

“With better awareness you can make better choices and when you make better choices, you will see better results.”

4. Read and/ or Listen to Motivational Material: in the morning a whole day of endless possibilities lies ahead. I motivate myself to play my best game by reading and listening to inspirational books/ audiobooks. For audiobooks I recommend the free introductory offer from Audible.

5. Visualize the Day Ahead: I like to take a few minutes to shut my eyes and visualize what I want happen in the coming day. It’s amazing how often my desires become reality when I do this.

6. Write a “To Do” List: I like to write out a list in my diary of the important tasks I need to do that day. As they are completed I put a line through them. So simple, yet so effective.

7. Check the News Headlines: I think it’s important to have an idea of what is happening in our community and the world. Also if don’t at least check the main stories, I find it is easy to feel left out of conversations throughout the day. Having said this, much of the news is negative and I’m careful not to spend too much time digesting it unless there is a particular story of note.

8.  Blog: I find there are many benefits to blogging. Starting a blog can help you gain clarity, be creative, make new friends, and may even generate you some income. If you would like to start a blog I recommend Squarespace.

9. Take Time to Look Good: it’s a reality of life that people judge us by our appearance. I take a few minutes each morning to ensure I go out into the world looking the best I can.

The Day

10. Smile. You’ve probably heard about the importance of smiling, but as the saying goes“common sense is often quite uncommon.” I try to carry a smile with me on throughout the day. I find that not only does it make me happier, but it can make other people smile and open the door to conversations with people I haven’t talked to before.

11. Put First Things First: I try to avoid having my day controlled by tasks that are urgent , but not necessarily important. The habit of putting first things first is about organizing and executing your life around your deepest priorities.

12. Under-Promise and Over-Deliver: at work I try to go the extra mile on my projects, especially on the details many people might miss.  I set reasonable deadlines for myself and, when possible, try to get them done early.

13. Be Proactive: being proactive means showing initiative and taking the responsibility to make things happen. Whenever I want to get something done, I ask myself: “what can I do to make this happen?”

14. Snack Well: I substitute the chips, candy and chocolate with fruit, vegetables (carrots and celery are great to chomp on) and nuts.

15. Connect with Nature: I find spending time outdoors in nature is great for my sense of well-being. On work days I like to go for a walk during my lunch break.

16. Ping a Friend: I try to send a quick email or text to a friend each day. It’s a great way to stay in touch with friends when I am extremely busy.

17. Save: I save at least 10% of each paycheck. A great way to find the money to save is to break it down to a daily amount, for example $10-15. By taking account of the Latte Factor I find it easy to save this much.

The Evening

18. Have Family Time: I believe it’s important to be present most evenings. Family time is about quantity and quality.

19. Take Time for Myself: I also believe it’s important to spend a little time each day just for me. Some things I like to do: read, write, meditate, yoga, play music and/ or visit the gym.

20. Tidy Up: a cluttered house can lead to a cluttered mind and fuzzy thinking. I find it’s best to stay on top of things by tidying up each day.

21. Wind Down: I try to switch off the computer and the TV about 30 to 60 minutes before bedtime and let my brain have some down time after a long day. I sleep far more peacefully when I do this.

22.  Review My Day: I find this is a great way to hold myself to account for taking action throughout the day. Did I get closer to achieving my goals? Did I complete my to do list? Did my day go as planned? If not, why not?

23. Say I Love You: don’t just assume that your family members know you love them. I say these words to my wife and sons at least once per day.

24. Go to Bed At A Reasonable Time: the first habit of this list (waking early) begins by going to bed at a reasonable time and getting a good nights sleep.

An experience of LIFE by “90 year” old lady ..

Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

1. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
2. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
3. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
4. Pay off your credit cards every month.
5. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
6. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
7. Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.
8. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
9. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
10. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
11. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
13. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
14. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
15. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
16. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
17. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
18. Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
19. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
20. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
21. The most important sex organ is the brain.
22. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
23. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
24. Forgive everyone everything.
25. What other people think of you is none of your business.
26. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
27. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
28. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
29. Believe in miracles.
30. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
31. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
32. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
33. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
34. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
37. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
38. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
39. The best is yet to come.
40. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
41. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
42. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
43. Yield.
44. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.